She Decided Negativity and Stress Had to Go


A negative mindset permeates and poisons the environment with a toxic veil of frustration, disappointment, negative words, and constraining energy. The great news is that mindset can change and evolve into a life affirming way of thinking. My next guest blogger shares her story of transformation and change. I have known Bonnie since 2011 and what I love about her is her desire to be better every day and her commitment to self-development. Here is her inspiring story:

Bonnie’s Story 

bonnie2011picMy name is Bonnie Gortler and I am a stock market guru. Financial fitness for 31 years is what I know best. The challenge of the market has kept me thriving and alive on the outside, but I was in pain on the inside. I felt sad, angry, and numb after losing family and friends, one by one to cancer including my mom at the age of 62. I was shaken and had difficulty accepting that she could only be in my heart and I would never see her again.

Another tragedy occurred and in an instant my life changed unexpectedly. My mother-in-law, who I love dearly, almost died right before my eyes. An important message was given: life is short, live life to the fullest. Most doctors gave up on her, but she continued to fight for survival, recovery, and to joyfully do what she desired.

Then, a new world opened for me which included a home based business. I wanted to support my mother-in-law, if it became necessary. My life as an entrepreneur began. Immediate success turned into immediate failure, which ultimately became the ultimate breakthrough for me. I was asked… “Why are you so negative?” In that moment, I knew that the fearful, non-confident, stressed woman I was, needed to change, but I did not know how.

Hearing leaders speak with passion and confidence is when I realized how important personal development is. Negativity and stress had to go. Change was necessary!

Committing to my own personal growth had begun and became a priority.

The biggest gifts that I have received from my coaches are having people who patiently communicate with me and people who hold me accountable to move forward. I was inspired and challenged to grow, learning that there is more to life than fearing the world and keeping everything bottled up inside.

The transformation ball was rolling. I began first by changing my words, my attitude, and raising my level of awareness. I never gave up on myself, no matter how much pain I felt. I would cut, shape, mold, and polish to find my inner voice. My coach suggested opening a Twitter account. My circle of influence expanded and a huge shift took place.

I blossomed into a passionate networker. I was intrigued by a trainer and I learned that self-care is necessary. I found a mentor that inspired, supported, and believed in me, more than I believed in myself. I realized that my new-found spirit would overtake my fears.

I added journaling to my hobbies, which helped to let go of the past and the beliefs that were limiting me. I changed my vocabulary from “I can’t,” “I won’t,” and “I fear,”… to “I can!” I became an experienced weight loss champion, losing over 70 pounds since 2009. I achieved my goal the healthy way – slow and steady. Investing in my personal development has given me the confidence to realize that I can do anything I set my mind to. This is a universal lesson that pays high in dividends, so it is worth reminding yourself over and over again that … You CAN (whatever it may be) do it too!

Bonnie’s story shows that we really can do anything once we make up our minds and get the support we need and want.

Please share about a time in you life when you made up your mind to change something.



Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD

The Inspired Action Success Coach

13 thoughts on “She Decided Negativity and Stress Had to Go

  1. What an inspiring story. Once I started paying attention to my Self Talk, I realized I was my biggest enemy. Changing that takes a lot of hard work (and in my case, a life coach) and it’s always a work in progress but it makes such a huge difference.

  2. I had a similar experience to Bonnie’s when my younger brother died unexpectedly at the age of 49. I realised how short life can be and the importance to live each day as if it may be your last. My motto now is Carpe Diem – seize the day!

  3. Hi Lianda,

    Glad you were moved by my story, thank you for sharing your thoughts. When I first heard my coach mention you had choice in what you do I was shocked. However, I have learned there is always a choice, a great lesson in good and tough times. Believe and trust you!. Bonnie Gortler

  4. To all of you, I really appreciated everyone’s comments. I worked on my story with a coach for about 6 months, never shared it- I had fear,, Then I took Sheri’s class “Be The Inspiration 7 Ways to Inspire Your World” and I have not looked back since.. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You can do anything that you set your mind to.. Bonnie Gortler

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