Take the 30 Day Happiness Challenge

30DayReportHi there, are you ready for more happiness? I have been thinking a lot lately about what it means to thrive instead of survive. This also made me think about a quote that I saw that said, “You weren’t meant to pay bills and die.” But sometimes it can feel like that. You are going through life, being responsible, paying your bills, paying off debt, and saving for retirement, always looking at some magical date in the future when you can relax and enjoy life.

How about deciding right now, that you are going to live the heck out of life; that you are going to thrive; and that you are going to find something magical in each day?

Take my 30 day happiness challenge. It’s simple, nothing to sign up or register. Just make a commitment, starting today to have one happiness ritual that you do each morning for 30 days (Could be a gratitude list, a run, a walk, a journaling session- you pick). Then your job is, simply, to notice what happens. Simple. I would also love to hear from you. So go ahead and post on the Facebook page and say, “Yes, Sheri, I am doing the happiness challenge.”  And keep me updated on how it goes.

Get the Free 30 Day Happiness Challenge Report where you can learn some tips and techniques for every day happiness Click Here

In Happiness,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

www.sherikayehoff.com

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How to Heal Anything in Your Life

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When something drastic happens in your life, for example an ICU stay, an unexpected diagnosis or a major financial disaster or a relationship crisis, you are reeling and shaken to your core. I know I felt this way last summer when I woke up in ICU and was breathing on a ventilator last summer.  I went through stages of emotions. At first I was euphoric that I was alive. Then I was in disbelief when I was told I may need a heart transplant. Then I felt depressed. Then I felt terrified that I was going to die in my sleep and my children would be motherless.

I processed these emotions over about three days before I decided to take charge of my health and every aspect of my life.  What happened next is a recipe for anyone who finds themselves in a seemingly impossible situation.

First, engage in your spiritual practices. This is the time to pray and/or meditate. Reach out to people and ask for prayer. Connect with other spiritual minded individuals. Thousands of people prayed for me and I prayed on the phone every day with my parents. I also practiced meditation. The group energy of prayer unleashes massive power. Pray for peace of mind, for comfort, for healing, for guidance, for clarity, and for wisdom. One of the biggest benefits of prayer is the realization that you are not alone. You don’t have to shoulder everything. TakeYourBizImage4

Then, decide that you are willing to do and be anything that it will take to not only survive, but thrive. You will research, you will talk to people, you will try things, and you will trust your intuition. Be sure that your research includes searching for cases where people have spontaneously healed from your situation. Otherwise, only researching your illness or situation will likely end up making you sad and depressed even though you will be informed. Find people who have healed and talk with them. Consider options like alternative medicine along with your doctor’s suggestions. Ask questions about everything.

Next, accept what is in the moment. Accept your situation. This was difficult for me because I had never been on medications or been seriously ill in my life. My arteries were in perfect condition. I felt, “Why me? I am too young and health for this.”  When I stopped asking, “why me?” I began to open the path to acceptance. There is peace in acceptance. When you accept, then you can make plans. I told my family that I was doing everything on my bucket list in a year because we weren’t sure that I would have more than that amount of time.

Then, cherish each moment. Spend your time with people you love. Spend it doing what you love. Spend it truly living. Stay away from people who are negative and create more stress.

Ultimately I recommend for you to follow positive mindset principles. My near death experience  was a chance to practice everything I had been talking about for over twenty years and everything I had been teaching in my company for almost nine years. This time I needed  to save my own life. These are the techniques I used.

  • Write powerfully in a journal every day using my happiness technique. I wrote “Thank you for my healing” over and over. I also wrote: “I am healed and my heart is perfect. My lungs are perfect.”
  • Allow and accept all difficult emotions, but let them pass through, don’t give them a home in your body.
  • Rest and eat well.
  • Keep your pets close. My cat slept on my chest over my heart for hours at a time like she knew it was her duty to help heal me.
  • Speak positive words about your life and your biz. I still operated my company just days after I left the hospital. I said things like, “I get to still be here on Earth”.
  • Let go of any conflict and stay away from negative distractions. Step away from the drama.
  • Visualize your body and all aspects of your life working perfectly. I created elaborate visualizations where I saw my heart as healthy and my lungs working perfectly.
  • Consider working with alternative medicine like energy healing, EFT, guided visualization, guided meditation, mindfulness meditation, massage, Hypno-therapy, acupuncture, and/or chiropractic care along with your traditional medical care. (This is not meant to replace any medical advice, but to merely show there are alternate modalities to consider). My dear friend, Crystal Lynn, is an energy healer and she worked with me while I was in the hospital. She told me I was surrounded by angels and that my heart would be find which is the opposite of all medical advice I had received at that point.
  • Avoid upsetting media like the news. I even stayed away from watching any medical shows or crime shows. I chose comedies and beautiful music.
  • Do normal things. 10 Days after I got out of the hospital, I went to a rock concert (I even was wearing a life vest that would shock me if my heart stopped)
  • Move your body when you can. When I was cleared for exercise, I started at 5 to 10 minutes on my treadmill and soon was up to four miles.
  • Expect positive results.
  • Take relaxed inspired action that will help you achieve your results.

Of course, I can’t promise that you will be spontaneously healed, but I know I was healed within three weeks. My echo showed a normal heart. I know of many other people who have been healed not just from illness but from any burden.  Healing is always possible.

The intriguing news  is that all of the principles above, are principles that I have taught over the years to increase success and happiness for my clients. As I developed and used different modalities, little did I know that I would lean on all of these experiences to be a co-creator of my own miraculous healing.  I believe that if I could have such a dramatic experience with healing, that anything is truly possible for anyone. We can all have our miracles, but sometimes a person can get so consumed with fear, worry, stress and tension that it is difficult to break the cycle and concentrate on anything. So, I am willing to work closely with you on creating this focus so you can give yourself the best possibility at healing yourself, your life, and/or your biz.

If you would like to learn more about working with me, Click here to schedule a complimentary  grow your life or grow your biz strategy session.  If you need me and want my help breaking a cycle and creating a turn-around for you. I am here for you.

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In Happiness,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

www.sherikayehoff.com

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How to Create a Biz Growth Mindset

Takeyourbizimage3If you are a business owner, you are an entrepreneur because you are constantly in the position to do new things and try new ideas in order to grow your business. Do you think that you have to be a born entrepreneur to think like an entrepreneur? Thinking like an entrepreneur is as simple as thinking and doing something you have never done before. We all have entrepreneurial skills and to truly take your biz to the next level, I suggest you embrace your inner entrepreneur.  Move away from thinking of yourself as self-employed or a free-lancer. Even if you are a solo-preneur, think like an entrepreneur.

What does an entrepreneur do? First they take responsibility for being the best salesperson in the business even if they have a sales team. As the business owner, know your products and services inside and out. Be the most excited about your service or product. You know in your heart, more than anyone else, what your product and service does to make a difference.

Next, an entrepreneur gets comfortable with the unknown and understands there is some unpredictability in business. There will be some ebb and flow.

Create a big vision for your company. What will you be doing in one to five years and beyond. How do you see the business expanding? In your dream world, what would the business become?

Delegate tasks and projects. You cannot do everything yourself. Find all the help and support that you need. Surround yourself with experts. Hire strategically.

Think investment, not spending. Investing is money that goes towards the growth of the company. This could money devoted to training, consulting, staff, product creation, marketing, advertising, etc. Spending is money spent on office supplies, etc. Make sure you are investing in growing the business and not just spending.

Mind the cash flow. When cash is low, your task is to bring in more cash. Get creative. Think about every possible way money could come into the company and be open to all channels of receiving.

Ask for what you want. Ask, Ask, Ask. Few people truly ask for what they want. Practice this every day. Always ask. TakeYourBizImage1

Watch for opportunity. You may hear about a new idea in a casual conversation. You could be doing something unrelated to your business and get inspired. You may meet someone who wants to partner with you or help. You could see something on the news or in an article that sparks a new opportunity for you.

Think possibility. Instead of arguing for limitations, ask, “What is possible? So much can happen when you start thinking like this.

Give generously and make the community better. As an entrepreneur, you are a change maker and thought leader in your business, but you also are part of your community and can make things better. Be generous with all areas of giving. As you give, you also receive. If you feel like your cash flow is low, ask how you can give. Could you give your time or resources to a worthy cause. As you give, notice how things change. Consider the legacy that you are creating? What impact will your company have on future generations?

Practice these ways of thinking and acting and watch your business grow.

Check out these free resources for growing your business and growing your life.

In Happiness,

Sheri

 

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How to Magnetize Money in Your Biz and Life

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The Art of Magnetizing Money.

Have you ever known someone who just seems to have a golden touch? Everything they touch turns to gold. Did you know you can create this golden touch for yourself? Through changing your thoughts and actions you can practice what I like to call- The Art of Magnetizing Money. If you feel like the cause you serve is above needing to make money, consider how the additional cash flowing in could help you make a bigger difference and help more people.

 

Here are some steps to get you started.

First, determine the amount of money that would make a significant difference to you. Maybe this would be an extra 5k a month or more. Don’t be shy. Pick the amount that gives you more than enough. Pick an amount that feels delicious and right for you.

Once you have that amount in mind, I want you to try on a concept that may seem completely foreign. This concept is that it is easy to make money.  Say it out loud. “It is easy to make money”. What if you really believed that? What if you didn’t believe that it was hard to make money. What if making money was as natural as breathing for you?  Consider how your life would be different.

Do you think beliefs can change? Reflect to a time in your life when your belief system changed. Maybe you thought you couldn’t run a mile and you did it. Or when you thought you could never learn how to ride a bike and you did it. Or how about finishing an important project like a report, a book, a degree, etc.  Chances are that you have experienced a changed belief.TakeYourBizImage4

As you think about the possibility of making money easily, allow that you can adopt this belief as your own. We know that belief drives results. Truly believing that making money is easy, makes it so.  The work is in creating and assimilating the belief.

You can use an affirmative approach by writing and saying several times per day, “I decided that it is easy to make money.”

You can also add more power to this affirmation by using visualization. Create a picture in your mind of you easily making money. It might help to write out this visualization in paragraph form and then see the picture in your mind. I have included a visualization right here that you are welcome to use (feel free to tweak).

“I open my eyes and stretch. I greet the morning as I wake up in my beautiful bed surrounded by gorgeous hand-made furniture and original artwork on the walls.  I slip my feet into my comfy slippers and walk to my kitchen and pour myself a cup of coffee. As I take a sip, I look around, I admire the kitchen, I admire the granite, the marble, and the solid cherry wood cabinets. My kitchen looks exactly the way I want it to look. Feeling the coffee kick in a bit, I walk to my office and sit down at my desk. I look lovingly at the things I treasure gathered on my desk: photos, souvenirs, a statue, a lamp, and a candle. I turn on my computer and check on the status of my business and finances. My email is full of product and service orders, some invitations to speak, and requests for consultations. I happily forward a few key emails to my assistant to follow up. As I open my bank statement, I appreciate the comfortable cushion of ____(fill in the blank)  in my checking and savings accounts. I check my retirement and investment accounts and they are growing. It all feels, easy, exciting, flowing and natural. I have fun picking the day’s charity. Every day I pick a wonderful cause and send money. I reflect on this thought,” It is easy to make and grow my money”. I have some appointments scheduled during the day, but my work day ends at three pm and I have plenty of time to ___________________. Later I have dinner plans with_____________________.  I am so thankful for my amazing life and the people in it. I am so thankful for my business (or job) where I make a difference every day. All is well.”

Appreciate all money coming in, even if it is money on the floor that you find.

Say, yes, when people offer you help or offer a gift. On a cruise ship, a priest offered to buy me a cup of coffee. Instinctively, I wanted to say no because I would normally feel like I give to the church not receive something financial from the church. But, I said, “Yes”, graciously and received that wonderful cup of coffee. Also, on the same ship, a woman sitting next to me offered to give me the art that she won at the art auction, immediately I wanted to say, “No” because it seemed strange that someone I barely knew would give me a work of art. Instead, I said, “Yes”, and graciously received this gift of art.”  This was part of practicing being a good receiver and keeping my receiving channels open.

Notice how you can increase your awareness of your own receiving patterns.  Say the affirmation, “I decided I am a great receiver and lovingly receive all of my good coming to me.”

To learn more money magnetizing techniques for your life or business, schedule a free consultation with me.

In Happiness,

Sheri

 

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9 Minute Decision Making

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Most CEO’s make the majority of their decisions in less than 9 minutes. And a few decisions might take an hour, but rarely does the decision making process extend for longer than that time frame.

In my experience working with clients, I notice that sometimes people struggle with decision making. Often this struggle is based in the person concentrating on lack or worrying about losing something. For example thinking, “If I choose this, it means I’ll never get to do this other thing.”  There is also this thing called, “Fear of Failure”. If you have this kind of fear, you worry that if you make the wrong decision you will fail, or be a failure.  Few decisions are in a right or wrong category, though. Most decisions are between two good things. If a decision is between a bad thing and a good thing, that’s a no-brainer, you will of course choose the good thing.

Remember that few decisions are permanent. For example, if you choose a movie and it is a terrible movie, you can stop watching. If you buy the “wrong” car, you can sell it and buy another car. Let’s look at even more permanent decisions like naming a child. You can even change a name, go by a nickname, and sometimes the child changes his or her own name when they grow up. (I am not suggesting that you choose a child’s name in 9 minutes or less, by the way).

If you devote too much time waffling around in the decision making process, very little actually gets done.  Here are some tips to make quicker, better decisions.

First, note the importance of the decision and consider how much time you reasonably feel you need to make the decision.

Decide on a decision deadline (of course you can change this). For example tell yourself, “I am making this decision within the next few minutes.  (or half hour or by tomorrow or by next week).

Review the research or information you have.

Tune into your intuition or gut feeling about the decision. What feels like the right decision? People often report “knowing” their decision, but then spend another several minutes, hours, days or months turning it around in their minds. Have you ever interviewed people for a job and immediately you knew which one you wanted to hire, but then you started going over and over resumes and replaying the interviews in your head, only to go back to your first choice?

I was at a restaurant once speaking to the chef. I was trying to decide between two entrees and asked his advice. He told me he couldn’t give me advice because both dishes were so different. Then he asked which one I was drawn to first, when I told him, he said, “Then that is that right choice for you.” We laughed a bit, and it was a delicious meal.

Consider grouping some decisions automatically in the 9 minute or under category (where you will eat dinner, what movie you will see)

Consider grouping even more decisions in the 9 minute or under category (eg email subject titles, the price of a package, a picture for a facebook ad). I know you are going to say, “But I have to put time into this.” Yes, learn the principles of a good subject line, pricing, a good facebook ad photo, etc. So, then, in practice, you can decide faster.

Everything always has a first version, a version 1.0. No matter how much time you put into the first version, you learn from the first version. You will always be testing and tweaking. If you delay too long at the beginning, you will accomplish less.

Take imperfect action because there is no such thing as perfect action. There will always be something you want to change. The first iphone was very different from today’s version.

If you feel like you made a poor decision or maybe you feel like you made a good decision, but not a great decision, see what you can learn from it and let it go.

The more you practice quicker decision making, the better you get at it. And the bonus is that you will get more done, have more inner peace and more time available.

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Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD. is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and being a catalyst for business and professional growth in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to live their joy, do the work they love and make money so they can follow their own unique path to success.  She is a best selling author of multiple books. www.sherikayehoff.com

Discover Steps for More Every Day Happiness

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Some people seem happier than others. Some people seem to magnetize you with their smile, their energy and others seem to be perpetually “in a mood” and something is “always going wrong”.  In the U.S. only about one third of people report being very happy. One of the biggest factors that impact daily happiness is that happy people try to be happy. It’s a choice. Happiness is a practice, it’s not a condition. Happiness is a way of being and a way of looking at life. I have recently shared some happiness practices such as creating a daily happiness ritual, keeping an appreciation list or gratitude list, and here are some additional happiness practices. Choose a few that resonate with you and get started on creating more daily happiness.

Be kind to yourself and others. Practice excellent self-care. Sleep well. Move your body. Go to the doctor. Eat well. Practice deep breathing and relaxation. Give yourself a break. Stop being hard on yourself. Extend kindness to other people as well. Accept faults. Forgive quickly. Be generous with your time and attention. Give genuine compliments. Show that you care. Seek to understand.

Engage in hobbies that give you joy. If you have always wanted to learn how to ride horses, dance, paint, draw, write, play golf, play tennis, cook gourmet food, etc… Go for it. Sign up. Start now. If you already have well developed hobbies, be sure to make time in your life for them. And consider whether you can involve the people closest to you and/or consider whether you could teach your hobby to someone else. If you can combine your hobby with your purpose in life or your legacy in life you will increase your happiness even more.

Get involved with an important cause. If you feel passionate about a cause, do something about it. Raise money. Raise awareness Participate on boards. Donate your time and money. Ask how you can get your business or work involved with this cause. Can you donate a part of your profits? Can you host a fundraiser?

Do something that stretches you out of your comfort zone. If you are completely comfortable, you are not growing. Do something every day that stretches you. This could be a phone call, an increase in intensity while exercising, learning something new, speaking up, asking for what you really want…

Pursue what you really want, don’t settle. Go for what you really want. It is far more satisfying to go for the best than to settle for what is merely okay or acceptable. Apply this to jobs, clients, trips, houses, cars, relationships… everything.

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Remember your why. When you don’t feel like doing what is important, remember why you are doing it. Remember why you started your business, why you went back to school, why you joined the gym, why you had kids, why you got married, why you developed the friendships that you have, why you got that puppy, why you took the job you have, and so on. Keep a list of your reasons why. Keep this list handy. Put it in the front of your folder file. Keep it next to your computer. Or keep this list in your wallet.

Keep practicing your daily happiness ritual. In a previous article, I discussed the importance of creating a daily happiness ritual (perhaps a gratitude journal, a daily run, daily meditation/prayer, etc). If you haven’t created a happiness ritual for yourself, do it now. If you have one, keep going. The consistency will yield a big pay-off for you. You will begin to feel an exponential increase in happiness after you have implemented your happiness ritual for several days in a row or months in a row. For me, it has been years and years of daily happiness rituals. When you build this practice, it will help you through very challenging times, as well.

Take care of incompletes in your life/do what you can today/don’t procrastinate. Incompletes are those things left undone. Incompletes weigh on your heart and drag down energy. Make a list of incompletes. Write down everything you have started and not finished on this list. Begin making your way through the list. If you started something and you truly don’t want to do it anymore, take that project completely off the table. For instance, if you decided that you want to knit and you bought a whole bunch of knitting materials and every time you walk by them, you feel guilty for not doing it, you have some choices. You could finish your knitting project, you could schedule your knitting project and then do it at that time, you could donate your knitting materials to someone who loves knitting and actually does it or you could put your knitting materials in storage. If you have a list of phone calls you need to make, sit down and do it. If you have a book half done, sit down and write a chapter. If you have a course you are writing, sit down and write a lesson. One of things I like to do is to take an afternoon and try to knock out as many incompletes as I can. I make it fun and put no pressure on myself. It feels really good. And this practice is a a major key to happiness and success. Over time, you will have less and less incompletes.

Have deeper conversations. Go beyond the surface with people. Don’t just talk about movies, the weather, traffic, sports, what you did, where you ate etc. Take your conversations to a deeper level. At a recent party with friends, I asked the question, “What was most important to you this year? What were the big things? At first people talked about trips, events, and then the conversation went to people and family and love. It was a great moment of connection for everyone. Be willing to notice what isn’t said. Be willing to ask if everything is okay. Be willing to listen to difficult challenges. When I got sick last summer, one of my friends would talk to me about everything else besides my illness. If I mentioned a fear that I had, she would dismiss it and say, “Well, I know you are going to get better.” I didn’t have the opportunity to explore how I felt. I had other friends who listened and encouraged me to go deeper and process what I was feeling. I was really thankful for that. My friend who wouldn’t listen didn’t act like that because she was unfeeling, it was just too hard for her to go there with me. It was too painful. But going deeper is a key to connection and a key to more happiness. Even if there is temporary sadness, there will be a deeper level of happiness because of the deeper connection. Be willing to open your heart to go deep with people.

Happiness is a lifestyle choice. Implement a few of these steps to happiness and then notice how your life has changed.

Book a free coaching session to grow your biz and/or grow your life .

In Happiness,

Sheri

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Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD. is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and being a catalyst for business and professional growth in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to live their joy, do the work they love and make money so they can follow their own unique path to success.  She is a best selling author of multiple books. www.sherikayehoff.com

Happiness is Linked to Your Bottom Line

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“I’ll be so happy when….” (fill in the blank). You probably filled in the blank with things like: “I finish school. My home is sold. When I buy my home. When I buy my next car. When I pay off all of my debt. When my business takes off. When I lose weight. When I get healthy” And you may have a few others to add here.

Often, people think happiness is cause and effect, that the circumstances create happiness or take happiness away. In reality, happiness is the beginning. Happiness is right now, not someday. Be happy right now and your goals will come to you. You will have joy in your life and in the moment while your goals are coming to you. There is no waiting for joy or waiting for happiness to happen to you. You can choose to be happy right now.

My lifelong work has been devoted to studying happiness and success. I became interested in this question, “Why are some people happy and others seem to struggle finding and feeling happiness?”

I, occasionally, hear from comments from people like “I don’t have time for happiness, I have bills to pay. Or I just want to be debt free. Or I just need to make it through the work day so I can…” The thought process here is that happiness is a frivolous thing and not important. In reality, happiness is the important thing. When you are happy, everything else in your life flows better.

“Needy” energy repels. Loving, supportive, caring, happy, joyful, confident energy attracts.

Your relationships improve when you are happy. You have an easier time getting people on board with your ideas when you are happy. Happiness attracts. This is how happiness and joy is linked to your financial bottom line. Joy is a very high energy feeling. The best is attracted to the best. When you are feeling great emotionally (happy, joyful), you magnetize greatness to you.

In my work with clients I see examples of this all of the time. When people consciously focus on being happy, their businesses grow. When people get caught up in frustration, growth stagnates.

Have you ever felt like you “desperately” needed a deal to happen? What usually happens when you are in that desperate, needy place? Money stays away. People say no. People don’t buy.

Think about the last time everything seemed to be working smoothly? You may have felt like you had a golden touch. Every business deal worked out. Money seemed to come from everywhere. Your personal life felt like it was working well.

What was going on for you at that time? You were probably relaxed and happy. Maybe you associate being relaxed and happy because the deals were working, but the truth is more likely that you were happy and relaxed and then the deals and everything else started working out.

If you manage people or have employees as a business owner, their happiness counts too. If you create a happy work environment, people are more successful and productive.

And A recent study by economists at the University of Warwick found that happiness led to a 12% spike in productivity, while unhappy workers proved 10% less productive.

According to research from University College London and London School of Economics professor Jan-Emmanuel De Neve and University of Warwick economics professor Andrew Oswald, happier people tend to make more money.

What can you do right now if you are tense, worried, and/or frustrated? What can you do if it feels like happiness is far away?

Follow these steps to create almost an instantaneous shift.

  1. Make a decision that happiness is important. Say, “I decided happiness is important.”
  2. Choose daily happiness. Say this statement out loud, “I am in the process of being happy.”
  3. Create a daily happiness ritual (Ideas: a morning run. A morning journaling practice. A daily gratitude list. Lighting candles. Listening to music. Dancing. Prayer. Meditation. Other?)
  4. Say thank you more often.
  5. Do more of what you love to do.
  6. Deepen your relationships with people
  7. Realize that you are a powerful creator. You have control over your thoughts. You always have choice. Find your power in your daily choices.

Happiness is so much more than a mood. It is a lifestyle choice that impacts every area of your life. Take a 30 day happiness challenge. Create a happiness ritual and practice it every day for 30 days. Notice what happens.

My Living Your Joy ecourse may help you truly experience more joy and happiness every day. Or book a complimentary 30 minute strategy session.

In Happiness,

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

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Sheri is a Business and Life Coach known for inspiring massive action and being a catalyst for business and professional growth in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to live their joy, do the work they love and make money so they can relax into their success.  www.sherikayehoff.com

Learn How to Turn a Crisis into a Triumph

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We all experience a crisis now and then. The crisis could be relatively small like missing an important appointment or it could be something life threatening such as a near death experience or a serious diagnosis. Approximately 70% of people in the US will experience a more severe crisis in their lifetimes.

How is it that one person is completely wiped out, beaten down, and feeling bitter because of a crisis and another person seems to thrive and grow from a crisis emerging even better than before?

In the news, we hear a lot about PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). This disorder is very debilitating and often takes years for relief, if ever.

What you don’t hear about very often is the opposite, PTG- Post Traumatic Growth; where people experience amazing growth from even the most terrifying crisis. According to the Post Traumatic Growth Research Group at UNC Charlotte, post traumatic growth “is positive change experienced as a result of the struggle with a major life crisis or a traumatic event”.

Doctors Richard G. Tedeschi, Ph.D., and Lawrence Calhoun, Ph.D. stated in their 2004 paper “Posttraumatic Growth: A New Perspective on Psychotraumatology” in Psychiatric Times, “the widespread assumption that trauma will often result in disorder should not be replaced with expectations that growth is an inevitable result. Instead, continuing personal distress and growth often coexist.”

Dr. Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and noted Austrian psychotherapist, said; “Life holds potential meaning under any conditions, even the most miserable ones.” Viktor Frankl wrote about the importance of the mind and how a person’s thought life created impact on his or her reality.

In my own personal experience of stopping breathing, going into the light and being unconscious for 12 hours in the summer of 2015 only to awaken and find out that a virus had attacked my heart, and I might have to go on the heart transplant list was a shock and crisis for me. I went from not being on any medication in my late forties to looking at the possibility of surviving maybe one to five years.

After I made it through the first few days of being in shock and seriously ill in ICU on a ventilator, I set my sights on how I could heal. I started searching for stories of anyone who spontaneously healed from my experience. Most of the literature was very grim, but I did find a few stories of spontaneous healing. I started to believe I could heal. I also knew I needed to be happy and around loving people.

Within three weeks, my heart returned to normal functioning. However, during that three weeks, I spoke to my parents every day. I felt more love for my family then I ever had. I felt more gentle and peaceful. I felt like I could “see” more clearly. I was determined to live fully and rest deeply.

I was almost as shocked to hear that my heart had returned to normal as I was shocked by getting sick in the first place.

I soon found that my life was better than ever. I appreciated everything more. I lived more in the present moment. I decided to do more things on my bucket list. I often used the question, “What am I waiting for?” My relationships became deeper. I was so happy to wake up each morning. And I realized I could still live the life of my dreams. All of my dreams could still come true. I didn’t need to stop dreaming just because I had to face something big!

If you are experiencing a crisis, you can increase the potential of turning your crisis into post traumatic growth by:

  • Spending more time with people that you love.
  • Deciding what is most important to you in your life- contemplate the deeper meaning of life.
  • Doing what you can to increase your daily joy. (What makes you laugh and smile? Mine were You Tube videos of animals and babies laughing).
  • Staying positive (my cardiologist actually said that to me). I kept a gratitude journal which I have done for many years.
  • Deepening your spiritual connection and practices. ( A daily prayer practice helped me greatly).
  • Taking action steps to reduce the feeling of powerlessness or helplessness.

I took action by doing research on my condition and other people’s healings. I also reached out to  people who had experienced something similar. I did what I could physically do. I looked at laundry and the dishes as a great gift. The first day I could make the bed without feeling breathless and weak felt like a miracle. Eventually, ten days after a nearly died, I went to a rock concert. I walked slow and took the stairs even slower.

A crisis. big or small, doesn’t have to derail you from your joy and success. I do encourage you to be patient and allow yourself to fully feel all emotions that arise. Even with growth, there will be times of disruption. I still get teary-eyed sometime when I think about waking up in the hospital, not knowing where I was, and seeing my husband and son looking both terrified and relieved at the same time and learning that my daughters were in flight on the way to see me.

And even though my heart is on the low/normal side of functioning. I still have to take five medications every day (My hope is that one day I will be med free) and monitor my blood pressure and sodium intake daily. Instead of thinking, “Why me?” I think, “I am so grateful I am here.” I am so grateful I can walk four miles. I am so grateful I can travel. I am so grateful I can run my business. I am so grateful I can watch my son play sports and dance with my husband and shop all day with my friends.”

You can experience challenges in dealing with your crisis and you can experience growth at the same time. Turn your thoughts to:  How great it is that you are still here on this Earth, able to love, able to be, able to make a difference. There are many examples of people who have thrived in spite of a crisis: Nelson Mandela, Malala Yousafzai, Oprah Winfrey, Eric Berry, just to name a few.

Many of my clients have risen from dire circumstances and crisis to be joyful, thriving and successful in life.

You have what it takes to live your daily joy. If you want to know how to ignite that spark within Click Here for more information.

Blessings and Keep Dreaming,

Sheri

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Sheri is a Business Coach and Trainer known for inspiring massive action and being a catalyst for business growth, attracting clients, and profits in a way that is fun, relaxing, and fulfilling, Sheri inspires people to live their joy, the do work they love and make money. Her clients have a passion for making a difference and making a profit. www.sherikayehoff.com

5 Ways to Obliterate Limiting Beliefs

LivingYourJoyOceanWhat is a limiting belief? Notice what you use after the word because…. In a sentence. E.G. My business is struggling because of the economy. I can’t lose weight because of my metabolism. I can’t go back to school because I don’t have the money.

You can only receive in your life what you allow in. If a limiting belief is blocking your allowing, whatever goal you have… will take a while to come to you, if ever. A limiting belief will spur sabotaging behavior, as well.

The ultimate experience in obliterating limiting beliefs is to have an instantaneous shift. We often call these paradigm shifts. They are big, dramatic shifts. One moment you think one way, and the next moment you think a completely different ways. These paradigm shifts often occur after a traumatic experience- a death of a loved one, a serious illness, a crisis and so on. But it would be better to not have to experience a traumatic event and go right to the paradigm shift.

How can a person go from not believing he or she can ever lose weight or get healthy to believing that it is possible? Or how can a business owner who has struggled for years begin to believe that she or he can be successful? You can set up your own paradigm shifts with these 5 techniques.

  1. Do your research… Has anyone ever done what you are trying to do? E.G. #1 2/3 of LivingYourJoyRosesAmericans are overweight. What does that really mean? Well, that means that one third are at their ideal weight or thin. In a U.S. population of around 319 million. That means around 107 million people are not overweight. Let’s say half are women. So 53.5 million women are not overweight. So when you think about it, you have millions of examples of people who are doing it! Millions of women are maintaining a healthy weight. Talk about blowing up a limiting belief! E.G. #2 The average woman owned biz does 155,000 in revenues. However the number of women owned businesses with over 10 million in revenue has increased by 57%. These are U.S. figures. There are also 9.4 million women owned businesses in the U.S with about 1/3 of them being minority women owners. Last year 887 women owned businesses were launched each day. So the message is that you can do it – hundreds, thousands, even millions are doing it. Notice how you feel. I know when I was fighting for my life in the summer of 2015, I thought if I could find one person who spontaneously healed from my same serious heart condition that was brought on by a virus, that I could too. And I did find one… and I did heal spontaneously in three weeks. Beliefs are powerful.
  1. Keep track… Write down every example in a beautiful journal on a daily basis that shows that you are doing it. Use words like “I am creating a beautiful, healthy body.” “I am building a multi-7 figure business.”
  2. Recall past successes… Have you ever successfully achieved a goal in the past? Recall one scenario and write it down. Remember the feeling of success. Feel yourself completely immersed in success vibes. E.G. Did you graduate from college? What did it feel like as you walked across the stage and held your diploma? Did you finish a race? A piece of art? Paint a house? You can use any type of example here- big or small. The point is to tap into feeling good.
  3. Do something creative. Color. Paint a picture. Take photos of a landscape. Create collages. Allow yourself to get lost in the creative project. It’s even better if you have never done it before. Be the student. Be the beginner. I am not a painter or an art person, but I have recently discovered that I love to paint and color. I also have always enjoyed taking photos. When I quit worrying about what other people thought of my creations, I noticed that my confidence became stronger in all areas of my life. I felt free to do my own thing.
  4. Relax and visualize. Relaxation is key with this step. The more you relax, the stronger your visualization will be in shifting your beliefs. Choose soft music if you like. I love Amazon Prime Playlists and I choose the Stress Free or Sleep playlist. Close your eyes. Begin with breathing deeply. In and Out. Fill your lungs hold, and exhale. Do this several times. Imagine every muscle in your body completely relaxing. As you relax, form a visual image in your mind of you achieving your goal. First, see yourself as an observer like you were watching you in a movie. Then see yourself actually in the movie. Clearly see yourself taking the steps that align with your goal. E.G. For a weight loss goal you could imagine yourself waking up, choosing a healthy meal, working out, shopping and buying clothes several size smaller or your favorite jeans fitting perfectly. Create the feeling by using all of your senses. E.G. for a business growth visualization. See your ideal lifestyle. See yourself in your office, confidently closing deals, making a difference, loving every minute of your business, and having all of the help and support you need. Practice your visualization every day even if you only have five or ten minutes. Research shows that the brain and body respond to visualization. This is incredibly simple to do, but incredibly effective.

You now have five solid techniques to obliterate any limiting belief. Choose the one or ones that fit your style and start using them right away. Don’t let your limiting beliefs put a shadow on your daily joy.

I would love to hear about how you work through your limiting beliefs in the comment section below.

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In Joy and Happiness,

Sheri

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3 Steps to Unleashing Inspired Action for Women in Biz

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If you own a business, you are already taking a lot of action. In fact, your schedule probably feels packed and you likely feel like you are putting in a lot of hours. But, are those hours yielding the results that you want in your business? Is your client list full? Are you creating the income that you want? Are you enjoying your business?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could stop working so hard and actually see more results? The kind of action you take is directly related to your results that you get in your biz. If you are caught in a never ending “busy” cycle, you won’t get the inspiration to take the bold steps you need to take to get your business to where you want it to be.

Inspired action yields positive results. Desperate reaction yields poor results. Here are three way to unlock inspired action in your business.

  1. Create more every day joy. Yes, I said it. Be happy. Happiness is the major boost to creativity and success. If you are focused on turning profits, you might feel that happiness is last on the list, after all, you have bigger things to think (worry) about. But happiness, is the biggest thing. I have been studying what makes people happy and successful for twenty years. What I learned is that happiness is a choice. Giving happiness a top priority in your life is also a choice. If you don’t believe me, just try it. Wake up in the morning and say, “I choose happiness.” Do it the same way as you would say, “I choose to wear black pants today.” Then make a list of a few thing that you appreciate. (This ends up being a daily journaling habit). Say thank you more often throughout the day.
  2. Relax more. I hear this often, “How can I relax when I have to ….. (fill in the blank). In my research, and in my own daily life, I have discovered that the more people relax, the more money they make in business. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Pray. Do Yoga. Listen to music. Take vacations. Whatever feels relaxing to you, do it more often. Deep relaxation helps you think more clearly and opens your mind to new ideas and new solutions.
  3. Trust your gut. Your intuition is rarely wrong. Occasionally, I meet a person who says, “I have no inner guidance, I don’t know what that is.” Often this type of person has been through trauma and is filled with self-doubt and is not able to recognize her own intuition, let alone trust it. Regardless of where you are in terms of recognizing and listening to your intuition, you can improve your intuitive hits through practice. A good way to practice accessing your intuition, is to ask yourself questions like, “What is my next step? How can I solve this problem? Who should I hire? What help do I need?” Once you ask a question(s) have a pen handy and write down any answers that come up. Also be ready with a notepad by your bed, in your car, in your handbag. Once you ask a question, your mind will continue to work on it even when you aren’t actively thinking about it.

These three steps; creating more every day joy, relaxing more, and trusting your gut will help you access truly inspired action steps. When you discover an inspired action step, take it. You grow, learn, and become more confident and successful through taking meaningful steps.

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In Joy and Happiness,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

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