How she got her mojo back

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“Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” William James

I have been featuring stories of people overcoming challenges. Each story over the past few weeks  could have been a story of stopping and giving up because the challenge was just so big. Instead each story has inspired us through the message of strength and triumph when facing adversity. Wendy’s story truly could have stopped anyone short of success. Read how she “got her mojo back”.

Wendy’s Story

Think Without Boundaries:

Sometimes you think your life is going in one direction and suddenly you hit a detour. In late 1999 I was a single mom to three great kids under 10, recovering after a divorce and building a strong business online as an Internet Marketing Specialist. After my divorce in 1994 I took stock of what I knew how to do – typing and talking! So, with a ‘no money down – pay in six months’ plan I got my first computer from a big box store. I started a little typing business – and typed everything from student’s papers to menus for restaurants. I had a natural knack for marketing and began helping clients with ideas to grow their businesses. Word began to spread and I was asked to speak at my local Chamber of Commerce and then my local university. I realized many people wanted the information I had so I approached my local radio station and got my own daily radio spot for small business. I built my first website in 1994 and within three weeks of launch the New York Times chose it as “one of the best sites on the ‘net” (the same day they chose Microsoft!) I realized I had information that could help so many people use this new thing called the internet and began speaking throughout western Canada and the USA. I was a nominee for “Canadian Entrepreneur of the Year” and my business was growing rapidly. Life was good.

Then the detour happened.

I contracted an e-coli bacterial infection that ate away portions of my lower three vertebrae and two discs in my spine, destroyed a kidney, scarred my corneas and damaged my brain. I spent a number of months in hospital, then more months in a body cast from my neck to my knees (to fuse the bone fragments back around the spinal cord). It took over a year to learn to walk again without a cane, and even more time to get my vocabulary and brain function back. Since I was unable to work during this time I ended losing the home I had purchased after my divorce – so I started over again!

It’s been over a dozen years since that time and my children are grown and I have grandkids. I finally feel like I “have my mojo back” and am excited about what the future holds. My new business is going very well – I work with amazing clients and am busy developing a new online training course for people who aren’t able to access one to one coaching. My life philosophy is to live each day with gratitude and “think without boundaries!”

Bio:

Wendy McClelland is a lifelong entrepreneur who started her first business at nineteen. Since then she has operated numerous successful businesses. Today, she is the first Certified Guerrilla Marketing Coach in British Columbia, Canada and works with small to medium size businesses to help them develop innovative strategies to reach their target markets. Her clients include manufacturers, small business owners, creatives and a wide variety of other entrepreneurs.

Wendy is preparing to launch a new online video training program that will provide entrepreneurs with all the foundational building blocks to grow a business. Participants will learn how to identify and make connections with their ideal clients, create a sales funnel and develop a complete marketing strategy with over twenty five Guerrilla Marketing tactics. Each video comes with downloadable worksheets and resources. The program also includes a private Facebook group.

Free Offer:

Wendy is offering a free “Business Expertise Bundle”  which contains 5 ‘how to guides’ including:

–       How to Write a Press Release the Media will Love

–       How to Succeed at Trade Shows

–       How to Use Joint Ventures to Grow Your Business

–       How to Spend Less Time on Facebook But Get More Results

–       How to Create Unique Ways to Market your Product

You can get your copy here – http://wendymcclelland.com/products/how-to-guides/

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I love how Wendy got her mojo back through her willingness to think without boundaries. If she can overcome her challenges, we can too.

Warmest,

Sheri

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How She Went from Neglect to Success

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I have been featuring stories of overcoming challenges on my blog over the past few weeks… and Amethyst Mahoney shares a powerful story of transcending abuse and neglect to becoming a highly successful business woman. If she can do it… you can too:)

Amethyst’s Story

AmethystMahoneyAmethyst Mahoney was born in the throes of the Deep South in the United States in a very poor, broken family. She never knew her father and was looked upon as a burden and something to be controlled. Moving from trailer park to run-down apartments between Memphis and Nashville, Tennessee, Amethyst and her mother finally settled with an abusive and alcoholic man who liked to beat up women for fun.

Fundamentalism was forced upon her at a young age, and Amethyst was afraid of disappointing anyone and not being perfect for the majority of her childhood years, lest she be thrown into the pits of hellfire and damnation. Any slight was means to be yelled at and beaten, whether it be rolling her jeans to try to fit in with the cool kids or asking for food because she hadn’t eaten in two days (after all, money was for alcohol and drugs).

At the age of 12, Amethyst sat up all night with a loaded gun in her mouth, trying to decide whether or not to end the pain. During that long, dark night, she realized 2 things: 1. Instead of selling Girl Scout cookies, wrapping paper, and calendars for school she could create her own products and services and use the money she earned to eat and 2. She didn’t want anyone else to go through this, so she would become a psychologist and help others.

After years of moving from place to place and being told she was worthless, Amethyst was able to escape with a full scholarship to college. She lived out of her car for nearly two years, sometimes couch surfing with friends until someone let her rent a corner of their living room so she had somewhere to sleep at night. She delved into psychology as a means of helping others realize their self worth and dignity, and to get past childhood traumas that continued to keep them from their potential.

Through it all, Amethyst never lost the faith that there was a better way out there, and she believes the best way to create a life of Limitless Abundance is to create your own business doing what you love. Now armed with 2 Master’s Degrees, a PhD, and a lot of life lessons, Amethyst helps spiritual entrepreneurs unlock their purpose and get paid to do what they love. She is the author of “50 Places Your Clients are Hiding – in Plain Sight” and now has clients in more than 47 countries on 6 continents around the World.

Amethyst’s dream is to empower women entrepreneurs across the globe by donating $10 million to Kiva. In her spare time, she also works with foster children at Girls, Inc to let them know that they are not alone and that they do have value.

Her website is: http://www.AmethystMahoney.com

I know Amethyst’s story inspired a few tears for me. I love how she not only has become successful, but also how she is giving back now.

How has your dream been impacted by your childhood?

Warmest,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

The Inspired Action Success Coach

www.lifeisjoyful.org

 

She Decided Negativity and Stress Had to Go


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A negative mindset permeates and poisons the environment with a toxic veil of frustration, disappointment, negative words, and constraining energy. The great news is that mindset can change and evolve into a life affirming way of thinking. My next guest blogger shares her story of transformation and change. I have known Bonnie since 2011 and what I love about her is her desire to be better every day and her commitment to self-development. Here is her inspiring story:

Bonnie’s Story 

bonnie2011picMy name is Bonnie Gortler and I am a stock market guru. Financial fitness for 31 years is what I know best. The challenge of the market has kept me thriving and alive on the outside, but I was in pain on the inside. I felt sad, angry, and numb after losing family and friends, one by one to cancer including my mom at the age of 62. I was shaken and had difficulty accepting that she could only be in my heart and I would never see her again.

Another tragedy occurred and in an instant my life changed unexpectedly. My mother-in-law, who I love dearly, almost died right before my eyes. An important message was given: life is short, live life to the fullest. Most doctors gave up on her, but she continued to fight for survival, recovery, and to joyfully do what she desired.

Then, a new world opened for me which included a home based business. I wanted to support my mother-in-law, if it became necessary. My life as an entrepreneur began. Immediate success turned into immediate failure, which ultimately became the ultimate breakthrough for me. I was asked… “Why are you so negative?” In that moment, I knew that the fearful, non-confident, stressed woman I was, needed to change, but I did not know how.

Hearing leaders speak with passion and confidence is when I realized how important personal development is. Negativity and stress had to go. Change was necessary!

Committing to my own personal growth had begun and became a priority.

The biggest gifts that I have received from my coaches are having people who patiently communicate with me and people who hold me accountable to move forward. I was inspired and challenged to grow, learning that there is more to life than fearing the world and keeping everything bottled up inside.

The transformation ball was rolling. I began first by changing my words, my attitude, and raising my level of awareness. I never gave up on myself, no matter how much pain I felt. I would cut, shape, mold, and polish to find my inner voice. My coach suggested opening a Twitter account. My circle of influence expanded and a huge shift took place.

I blossomed into a passionate networker. I was intrigued by a trainer and I learned that self-care is necessary. I found a mentor that inspired, supported, and believed in me, more than I believed in myself. I realized that my new-found spirit would overtake my fears.

I added journaling to my hobbies, which helped to let go of the past and the beliefs that were limiting me. I changed my vocabulary from “I can’t,” “I won’t,” and “I fear,”… to “I can!” I became an experienced weight loss champion, losing over 70 pounds since 2009. I achieved my goal the healthy way – slow and steady. Investing in my personal development has given me the confidence to realize that I can do anything I set my mind to. This is a universal lesson that pays high in dividends, so it is worth reminding yourself over and over again that … You CAN (whatever it may be) do it too! www.bonniegortler.com

Bonnie’s story shows that we really can do anything once we make up our minds and get the support we need and want.

Please share about a time in you life when you made up your mind to change something.

Warmest,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD

The Inspired Action Success Coach

www.lifeisjoyful.org

How she overcame a fear of public speaking

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We have been discussing overcoming challenges in my guest blogger features this month. Today, I am sharing Monica Bourgeau’s story with you. She is a brilliant woman with a very accomplished career, yet a fear of public speaking could have cut short her success. Find out how she overcame here fear of giving presentations and speaking in public.

Monica- Tell us your story about overcoming your fear of public speaking?

“When I was 29, I just started a new job at an insurance company. It was my first executive-level position and I was working many long hours on complex but exciting projects. I had just finished leading a series of small group employee meetings in preparation for writing the corporate strategic plan for the next year. My boss had been on vacation for the past week and just returned in time for the annual company-wide meeting.

As we were in the car on the way to the meeting, my boss turned to me and said, “Oh Monica, I was planning on having you talk briefly about the strategic planning process if you don’t mind.”

It was my worst nightmare. I was expected to present on stage in front of more than 200 people with no time to prepare. Even though I had taken a college speech class and was in debate in high school, I had never presented in front of a large audience.

A giant lump swelled up in my throat and I thought I was going to be physically sick. My palms were sweaty and I just couldn’t think straight. What was I going to talk about? I had just 20 minutes before my section was up. I was doing everything I could to remain calm and professional but inside, I was a complete wreck.

Somehow I made through the presentation. I’m honestly not sure what I said but I could feel every eye in the conference hall on me. It was the single most stressful event of my career and one that made me realize I had to conquer my fear of public speaking.

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Today, almost ten years later, I often present to executive teams, have given several workshops and seminars, and was a keynote speaker at a women’s symposium and a CEO forum.  Presenting in front of large groups still causes some butterflies in my stomach but I am confident enough now in my ability that I can work through those. It took some work and some practice, but here are the steps I took that can help you too

Be Prepared:  Whenever possible, prepare your presentation early there is time to practice, practice, practice.  The more prepared you feel, the more confidence you will have.

Know Your Material: When you speak about a topic you know well, it is easier to feel confident and answer unexpected questions. It also helps to choose topics that excite you and that enthusiasm comes through to your audience.

Have a solid opening and know it inside and out: If you have a strong opening to your presentation, it helps your confidence and sets the tone for the rest of the presentation.

Get yourself in the right mindset: Listen to music, meditate, or practice visualization before the presentation.

Visualize Success: When you think about the event, instead of allowing yourself to feel worry or stress, try to visualize yourself speaking with confidence and having applause and happy faces in the audience when you finish.

Be Authentic and Connect with the Audience:  My good friend Michelle gave me an excellent piece of advice when I was preparing for the symposium. She said you need to be authentic with the audience and share who you really are with the audience.

Find Friendly Faces in the Crowd: No matter how serious the group, you will find that there are always some friendly faces in the crowd.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously: Once the presentation begins, relax and go with the flow. Don’t stress too much or apologize if something goes wrong, just pick up where you left off and continue. When I was presenting at the women’s symposium, the battery on the laptop died for the last couple of slides so there was a black screen. I didn’t let it ruin the presentation though and the audience chuckled with me.  I carried on from memory for the conclusion and the audience appreciated that.

Monica HeadshotsPublic speaking has gone from something I feared to something that I seek out and enjoy and you can too. ”

Monica Bourgeau is a Life and Executive Coach at Life Ohm LLC  http://www.lifeohm.com/

I deeply appreciate Monica’s story about conquering her fear. What fears are holding you back from your highest good and sacred success? Have you addressed and conquered a fear lately?

Warmest,

Sheri

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How to Keep Your Life in Balance- The Challenge of Over-Committing

InsightsandpeaceMy guest bloggers this month have submitted stories about overcoming challenges. It is inspiring to see so much strength and courage.

I have known Amethyst Wyldfyre for a few years now and I love her energy. I have interviewed her for some of my telesummit events and she brings a soothing and inspiring vibe to everything she does. She is the first one to admit though, that at times her energy goes out of balance with her business and shares a familiar story that resonates with givers. When you are generous spirit, always giving, and always doing- there is a cost. It is so important to invest in self-care time and time to recharge.

Here is Amethyst’s story:

The Balancing Act 

AmethystWBlogPostI have a perennial challenge with over-committing – and then ending up taking it out on ME when it’s time to fulfill on the promises I’ve made.  This challenge has led me more than once to spiral down into burn-out and resentment.  When I don’t honor my own needs for free time to create, spend time with friends, be out in nature or enjoy my home and family I have come to understand that I’m actually being self-abusive.   Saying “yes” to every invitation that seems fun and interesting is like getting a “quick fix” in the moment of excitement that comes at the thought of writing something or speaking at an event or attending someone’s party.  Then when the time comes to actually deliver if I spread myself too thin – I often will exhaust myself in the process of honoring my word.

When I start to feel the ‘slow burn’ of resentment building I know it’s time – REGARDLESS of what I’ve said I would do – to stop my world and ask myself the big question:

“When was the last time you took some time just for you?  Not just a day off from work but some serious time out – 3 – 4 days, maybe even a week or two that is totally and completely unscheduled – time to reflect, to journal, to meditate, to rest, to review your life, to see where you are and where you’ve come from, to decide, really consciously decide who you are and who you want to be, to see where you are and where you really want to be going.”

Then I honor myself by circling back around to those people that I said yes to – and I willingly ADMIT that I have not honored them, the project or myself by saying that yes.  I ask for forgiveness.  I tell them what I CAN do and then let them decide if they still want me to participate.  If they do I will fulfill the promise, however more often than not they don’t want that “heavy” energy to be in their space either!

Finding balance in a world where we are either pushed or pushing to be performing at our peak 24/7 365 can be a major challenge for many of us. It’s even worse when YOU are the one pushing yourself!  Remember that you and you alone are responsible for creating your own reality and that you have the power to change what isn’t working can be the greatest gift you will ever give to yourself.

Bio:

Amethyst Wyldfyre, the Empress of Empowerment is an internationally recognized spiritual leader and transformation artist helping visionary entrepreneurs with a big message to be heard by millions of people around the world.

Amethyst is a:

  • Multiple Award winning life-long serial entrepreneur
  • Author of 5 books and contributing author in 6 compilations including 2 international best sellers
  • Speaker on hundreds of virtual stages around the globe
  • Owner of a multi six figure business built in under three years mostly in her pajamas!
  • Blogger for the Huffington Post and Inspire Me Today
  • Media personality with appearances on TV, Radio & in print including CNBC Bay Area and the Boston Globe.

Amethyst’s client list includes NY Times Best Selling Authors, Hay House Radio Show hosts, and an array of international thought leaders in a variety of fields including personal growth, executive recruiting, sales and marketing, health and wellness, finance, government and adult education. Get a free gift from Amethyst Click Here

I so appreciate Amethyst’s willingness to share with us today. 

Question: How do you keep yourself in balance?

Warmest,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

The Inspired Action Success Coach

www.lifeisjoyful.org

 

 

 

 

Overcoming Challenges- Did Her Breakdown Equal a Breakthrough?

“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.”  William James

Facing challenges is a part of every day business. I am often asked when is it time to “pull the plug” and try something different. Only the biz owner can know for sure. I do know that when biz owners are full of self-doubt and are not seeing success in business, it is a crushing feeling.  After all, the owner thinks, “If the biz fails, what do I have to show for all of this work?” or “I am love what I am doing- How can I go back to not loving what I am doing?”. In reality, I feel there is no failure- something is gained from every experience and if your current biz model is not working the way you want it to- it doesn’t mean that the only alternative is doing something you hate for someone else. You always have choices. You can shift what you are doing. You can tweak your biz model and shape into something that works for you.

Often we gain Insight from hearing the stories of other people.

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Today I am featuring a smart, savvy Biz Owner with a great story of how she overcame a breakdown regarding her business. Please enjoy:

Overcoming Challenges Feature Story from guest blogger Tricia Dycka

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Did my break down equal a break through?

While we were in FL, I was working my fingers to the bone. Money was dwindling, business was….well, I can say it just a hobby. Although at the time, I felt I was in business. I had no clients and was going backwards in a lot of ways. Yet I was convincing myself that everything would work out because I was doing what I wanted.

Slam on the brakes. I just couldn’t do it anymore. The bills were piling up and the hubby thought I had lost my mind. Had I?

I was convinced that I was going to make it big and it would happen immediately. At least that is what I was seeing from the internet. In the real world, I did not have any clients and the group program I had just rolled out brought me no sign ups. Well, what the hell was I doing wrong? I was following the brightest and best in the industry. If they could do it why the hell was it not working for me?

For starters, I was doing something that I felt completely inadequate even doing on the advice of one of the up and coming super stars. When the program I was involved with was over, I was completely disillusioned and on the path towards a complete breakdown. I was scrounging to come up with the money for her monthly program and trying really hard to get ONE client.

My hubby wanted me to get a job. While looking and sending out resumes, nothing was coming – not even a response to my job search. I thought this would work out IF I could get my first client. IF IF IF IF!!!! IF was not happening, it brought me up short and at the cross roads of a huge breakdown. You know the one – where you are completely hysterical and you feel the world is ending. Where there is a big L on your forehead (LOSER).

I hated myself, the program and anyone that crossed my path. I was at a really low point in my life. Of course, accepting responsibility and understanding that by following an idea from someone else who thought was good for me was really not a great idea. Of course, this was something I needed to come to grips with.

I hit the floor screaming, ranting and raving at God, the universe and life in general. I was absolutely DONE! I had nothing left to give – even myself. It was probably one of the lowest points in my life. I was very disappointed as I watched others achieve and I just sitting on my hands getting absolutely nothing accomplished.

My experience led me to understand how I can move forward and accept that it didn’t work out. I realized that I was not doing what I was meant to and watching others succeed led to getting stuck in a comparison trap is no way to move forward.

Breakdowns actually cleared away for me what did not work. Made me question the path I was on and answer the question will lead me to the life I want to be living. Breakdowns do equal break THROUGH. It was not my first and probably not my last.

If you are in the midst of a breakdown, allow it to just be. When you come through it, the opportunities will open up. It clears away what is not working, shows you the path to take next and brings forth the people who are meant to walk it with you.

Tricia Dycka  is an intuitive coach, Reiki Master, bestselling author, teacher, speaker and enthusiast.
Tricia’s mission in life is to help others understand the emotional roller coaster we all go through as women business owners. That feeling of being alone and nobody understanding is just a thought in your head. Every break down come before a break through either in your personal or business life. As an intuitive coach she helps you in your business as a source of support, helping you deal with doubts and define blocks that keep you from going where you want to go. You are not alone. You can reach Tricia at her website Click Here 

I love Tricia’s focus on allowing and clearing.

Warmest,

Sheri

Dr. Sheri Kaye Hoff, PhD.

The Inspired Action Success Coach

www.lifeisjoyful.org